To be turned on by your

own Self Expression

My most sacred and intimate containers

The most important part of my containers is the relationship we build together. Feeling safe, seen, and supported is the foundation for relational trauma healing.

Your capacity for relational intimacy that generates deep regulation and enjoyment in your body is within reach.

This is the process we will walk through together.

  • Safety & Security

    We begin by going slow, attuning to the subtle sensations in your body to guide us towards a gradual opening into vulnerability and healthy dependence. As you relax into the experience of taking up space and being seen, you’ll build a sense of security and trust in our relationship that you will be met with care.

  • Emotional Regulation

    Repressed emotions begin to move through the body, warming up the frozen parts of you. How you’ve been holding yourself together will be invited to come apart as we meet all the ways you’ve defended against feeling emotions all the way through. Co-regulation will be offered to internalize into self regulation.

  • Core Stability

    As your defenses soften and you split into parts, we descend into your core. At your core your deepest wounds and unmet needs exist, as does your core essence. Touching your core is akin to touching bottom. This is fertile grounds for your inner witness to awaken, to soothe, and to create inner stability.

  • Embodiment & Visibility

    As you seat your inner witness at the center of your body, your entire experience of your Self and others begins to shift. You stop matching the energy of those around you because you can feel, trust, and express your experience. You now see your Self and allow others to see and feel you too as your own unique energetic expression.

  • Integration & Self Energy

    Just as you came apart, you now come back together whole. The extreme parts of you have dissolved and combined into a coherent and cohesive Self. Survival energy has been transformed into more life force and your confidence, vitality, and Self expression emanate from your core.

  • Individuation & Intimacy

    You’ve become a complete and differentiated Self with the capacity for true closeness and connection. The process of dismantling, embodiment, and integration will be a lifelong journey, but now one of empowerment. You’ve discovered your own energy and the pleasure of sharing your core Self with another.

  • “Thank you for the healing role you have played in my life these last few years. You were instrumental in helping me navigate going from anxious attachment and situationships, to discovering Self in a healthy and healing way with boundaries to boot, and now navigating partnership in a way I never knew was possible for me. This feels like wha dreams are made of. You are really doing God’s work. You are my Oprah!”

    Fallen

  • Thank you for all the support you’ve provided me on this journey. When I first found you I was desperate. My anxiety was at an all time high and I had tried all conventional routes. You provided me a level of safety that allowed me to finally heal the stuff that never budged with years of talk therapy and medication. My life is literally unrecognizable since our first session. I feel like i’m the real me for the first time in my life. Erika is a total gem. The ripples are bigger than I ever imagined they could be.

    Kendra

  • This is the first time all of me is allowed, that all of me is welcomed. I’m not just seen, but celebrated. Erika has taught me we can both be brave and held. She is an answer to a prayer and proof their is a rainbow after every storm.

    Leo

  • Erka has truly changed my life. My eyes well up in gratitude. I cannot thank you enough. You put my life on a whole new path. I listen back to our sessions every morning and I can’t believe how much shifted over this year working together. I often cringe at my lack of awareness prior and my progress and deeper Self awareness is all because of you. You are an angel to so many.

    Kate

  • I am so lucky you are my coach. You hold such deep an compassionate space from a place of deeping knowing and divine intuition. I’m so apprciative of you.

    Zanny

  • I felt completely heard and understood. I’ve healed in so many areas of my life. I’ve applied all that Erika has taught me and have learned so much about my Self. Thank you for a life changing coaching experience. Thank you for holding space for little me, she needed a friend. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    Isabelle

  • What felt like my life burning to the ground was reframed into a consciously engaging and creating the reality I wanted. Addressing traumas and patterns deeply woven into my being through experiences of programming allowed me to access the freedom that can’t be forced outside of Self. I’m so grateful for Erika’s presence and guidance that helped me to remember just how empowering life can be. The shift from survival to thriving is possible and Erika was a huge part of that reality coming into fruition.

    Kylie

  • I wasn’t able to begin to heal from past traumas until I gave myself permission to slow down and experince the feelings caused from those traumas. Erika helped me to embody and release these feelings. I learned to set boundaries, stop sacrificing myself, and love myself in the process of healing. Through Erika’s guidance, I finally feel I’m coming back to my True Self.

    Christina

  • Erika helped me to tune into my feelings. I didn’t realize my body had absorbed and stored the emotional trauma. Erika is peaceful, thoughtful, and a wise leader. An even better listener. As I shared my stories she heard my bodies stories. She’s helped me release a lifetime of tension and deeply relax into my body.

    Lisa

  • My work with Erika has been nothing short of transformational. I had a deep need to learn what safety in my own body was and how to create it. I felt comfortable doing what is most uncomfortable, feeling. Erika has been a true gift to my healing and evolution. She helped me to find deeper peace within my nervous system and soul.

    Jasi

  • My time with Erika has been invaluable. She has helped me discover so much about my Self, about my trauma, and the impact on my nervous system. She created a safe space where I could express myself freely and learn to feel again. She’s helped me thru anxiety and shame, dark entities in my life that I couldn’t identify. I was desperate to change, to heal, and when I met Erika, I knew she was going to help me change my life.

    Erika

  • I was struggling with anxiety, depression, shortness of breath, stomach issues, and tightness in my body. Communicating what was happening in my body was uncomfortable, but Erika brought me so much ease as I slowly embodied my feelings. Erika helped me explore how past trauma and emotions show up in the body through symptoms, and how to move through them until they release. The parts work she fuses in also helped me have a completely different relationship to negative Self talk. This was a complete game changer.

    Jackie

  • Erika has made me feel so safe in the relational space and really begin the deep work of opening my heart and releasing past traumas. I understand my Self so much more. I am forever grateful for Erika an her ability to make me feel heard, seen, and safe, as I walked through the deepest personal events of my life.

    Meagan

  • As a parent on my own journey of cycle breaking, you are focused on your own healing of course, and undoing the wounds yo yourself created within your children while parenting in survival mode. My teenage daughter needed a space outside our relationship to have truthful, honest conversations with a supportive trauma-informed healer outside of our ecosystem. Erika has been essential to my cycle-breaking efforts. She instantly connected with my daughter who eagerly anticipates their sessions. Erika directly and compassionately talks about attachment wounding and doesn’t shy away from holding everyone gently accounable for finding their center. I cannot imagine walking the trauma recovery path wihout Erika on our team.

    Tanner

  • Working with Erika is one of the smartest investments I’ve ever made. She taught me to really listen to my body and pay attention to my thoughts to discover my truth. Erika helped me explore past traumas, excessive negative thinking, and get in touch with how trauma has affected my body. She is a wealth of knowledge and compassion. I’m grateful to her.

    Michael

  • Erika is one of the most grounded, compassionate practitioners I’ve ever worked with. I connected with Erika during a major life transition where my anxiety turned into panic. From our first conversation, my entire being felt safe with Erika, and I was able to deeply relax afterwards. I feel so much more grounded, secure, and like my Self. During our work I manifested a new job, new home, and experienced a huge shift in my relational capacity. I learned so much about my Self on this journey and developed a deeply loving relationship with my Self, and that is the greatest gift.

    Natalie

  • I’m so thankful for my time with Erika. It was the container that allowed me to check in with my inner most parts and deepest truths. Her loving presence allowed me to see and feel what was happening inside of me in the moment and helped me to understand which parts needed my attention and how I could be there for them. Erika created a space where I felt seen and safe t express whatever came up without shame or judgement. I’m so thankful for our work together!

    Lieselotte

  • I made it through the most difficult time in my life. It makes me just want to cry tears of joy because I never thought I would be the same person again. I don’t want to say I’m fully out of the woods, but I am having bigger moments of clarity. I’ve been processing a lot and feel such deep appreciation for the work we’re doing. I am so thankful you are on this healing journey with me. If I didn’t have your guidance I wouldn’t be coming out the other side transformed.

    Veronica

One to One

3-6 Month Virtual Container

For the secretly anxious woman whose…

  • High functioning at work and in the gym, but deeply dysregulated in relationships

  • Intellectual, empathetic, and perfectionistic on the outside, but panicked, dissociated, and frozen on the inside

  • Inner world is rich, but struggles to share herself fully in relationships

  • Addicted to intensity because she subconsciously believes it to be intimacy

  • Emotions and needs are suppressed in her striving to be liked, chosen, and protected

  • Hyper Independence swings codependent when she lets her guard down and attaches

  • Deeply conflicted between wanting to be seen and terrified of being seen

  • Fluctuations between anxiety and numbness are draining all of her energy

Through our work together you’ll learn to soften into your your center, trust sensation in your body, and expand your nervous system capacity to be fully seen, profoundly open, and deeply felt so you can stop performing secure, and actually embody it.

Book a free call with Erika

One to Two

Couples Virtual Container

For the couple whose…

  • Defensiveness is contributing to control and power struggles in the relationship

  • Reenactment of childhood trauma is eroding trust, diminishing the capacity to SEE their partner, and causing missed bids for connection

  • Unconsciously expecting perfect love from their partner to replace the missing parental love from childhood and withdrawing or punishing when they don’t receive it

  • Trapped in anxious and avoidant patterning that is preventing relational safety, security, and stability

  • Physical and emotional needs are in conflict and becoming areas of transaction

  • Stuck in ambivalence, questioning if they should stay or go

  • Conflict and repair process is leading to more resistance and resentment

Together we will bridge the emotional and physical distance created by attachment injuries, learn the art of truth telling through nonviolent communication, and create rupture and repair cycles that are regenerative, giving way to deeper intimacy.

Schedule a free call with Erika

SELF Sourced was created for the woman with fearful avoidant attachment who is tired of carrying shame in her nervous system, relationships, and sense of Self.

For the woman who:

  • Craves intimacy and deep emotional connection, yet is terrified and guarded against it

  • Performs independent, confident, and secure, yet underneath feels anxious, needy, and emotionally volatile

  • Has a split experience of love, unconsciously expecting that the love she wants will also harm her

  • Gets stuck in patterns of people pleasing, perfectionism, and naive empathy to avoid rejection, abandonment, or conflict

  • Scans for signs of betrayal, misreading neutral cues as threats and becomes defensive, fluctuating between dissociation or high reactivity

  • Fears being controlled in relationships, triggering her sharp endings, abrupt emotional withdrawal, and coldness

  • Has an unstable self image that fluctuates based on how she is perceived, leading towards a tendency to mirror others to feel accepted

  • Trapped by the inner conflict of wanting to seen and the expectation that being seen will be exposing and humiliating

  • Represses her life force energy, her truth, and the warmth generated by her emotional expression out of deep fear of vulnerability and dependency

What if you didn’t have to choose between love and safety..

Intimacy doesn’t have to cost you your autonomy. Your independence doesn’t require isolation. Love isn’t meant to erase you, it’s meant to expand you.

Join an intimate group journey combining my one on one work with live virtual circles and in depth curriculum, and learn how to transmute the downward spiral of shame, shut down, and fear of intimacy, into Self love, vulnerability, and secure attachment.

As she reprograms shame into Self energy, she raises her subconscious self worth and becomes fully Self Sourced.

A Self Sourced woman is:

Both safe and fully expressed in her relationships

Rooted in her body, tethered at her core, guided by her truth

Choosing herself , not abandoning herself for love

No longer chasing safety in others, but carrying it within her

Coherent in body and heart, attachment and authenticity

Trusting that her needs are valid and her boundaries won’t drive love away

Soft and strong, open and discerning, fierce and nurturing

Unafraid of her longing, she knows its meant to lead her

Transmutes shame into Self energy and expands her sense of Self

What’s included:

Virtual intimate group container
Weekly live group zoom call
Community support throughout the container
What’s App group space to receive voice transmissions
Psycho-educational, experiential, and process facilitation

Three month commitment, then rolls month to month
Option to add one to one support

Self Sourced

Intimate group container for women who crave love- but don’t feel safe in their body receiving it

Join Waitlist Winter 2026

To soften without collapsing.

To stay without shutting down.

To be seen without shame.

You were never too much or not enough to be loved well- you just never received the safety you needed to become SELF SOURCED.

Who's Erika?

As a PhD candidate in depth psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute, I’m researching the bind of fear and desire in disorganized attachment and how this bondage suspends a daughter from becoming woman. My working hypothesis is that the daughter frozen by this relational imprint, is bound to a negative animus, lives within the confines of a sadomasochistic split in her psyche and eroticizes her father complex. To cross the threshold into womanhood the inner authority structure must yield to the feminine, control must be surrendered for potency, and she must reclaim her beauty. Beauty animates relational love and frees it from the bind of terror.

As a somatic IFS and Jungian depth psychotherapist, I focus on the treatment of shock, attachment and developmental trauma, CPTSD, and anxiety, with particular attention to sexual and narcissistic abuse, betrayal and abandonment wounding. I support women and couples to feel safe in connection and move from relational trauma towards relational intimacy.

Rooted in the modalities of Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems, Attachment Theory, Polyvagal Theory, and Jungian Depth Psychology, my work fosters the recovery of the Core Self and earned attachment security.

You can find my current research and musings on IG @iamerikastraub

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